What are you doing this summer?

Summer--the best time of the year, for kids! Sometimes a dreaded time for working moms. Even though their schedule changes, yours doesn't. You are still required to be at work, your alarm clock is still set way earlier than you would like it to, and now your kids want to do stuff.

I get it. I want to do fun things with my kids, I want to make memories, but sometimes I forget and I'm just tired. A plan helps me stay focused and motivated.

To help yourself and your kiddos have a good summer, consider making an unconventional list. Not on the pad of paper that is attached to the front of your refridgerator, but maybe one like this...

Make a bucket list! Go to the dollar store and buy a bucket and some clothespins. On each clothespin write an activity you want to do together (have your child add some suggestions).  They can be places to go together (the zoo, waterpark, grandma's house) or things to do. (i.e. build a sand castle, play in the sprinkler, make playdoh, play in the rain) Put the clothespins around the top of the bucket, as you complete the activity put the clothespin in the bucket.

Have a goal to do one clothespin activity on the weekend and one night a week. This gives your children something to look forward to and help make their summer fun. It also helps you--you don't have to think of things at the last minute when you kids want to do something.

You can also simplify this activity by writing a list on large construction paper and check it off as you do each activity. (If your kids can write, have them help!) And remember color makes things look fun. :)

Either way, its a visual reminder to the kids of what's yet to come and as a parent it will hold you accountable to "do stuff" and not fall into a summer routine of sitting at home or telling the kids to go play outside.

If you have older children you could take a few pictures at each place/event and make a scrapbook towards the end of summer. If you want to do this, be sure to add it to your list.

If you aren't sure what to put on your list, or need a few fillers, check Pinterest (here's a link to summer activities).

I'm leery to have a link to Pinterest--that sight can make any mother feel like a complete failure! PLEASE, do not compare what you can do to what's on other people's summer list and don't think your list isn't pretty enough. THE POINT of all of this is to have fun with your kids this summer--Make memories, laugh together, enjoy the season! You only get 12...

"I just want Daddy!"

There was nothing specific that caused my daughter to scream these words over and over again tonight. She just did. My husband was sick and turned in early, so I was flying solo tonight. Feeding, changing, and bedtime for our 6-month old and 4-year old.

When it was time for my oldest to go to bed she stated, "I want Daddy." I reminded her that daddy went to bed early because he was sick and needed to rest so he could get better. (Reasoning normally works with her). Not tonight! The statement, became a demand, which eventually turned into hysteria.

I asked her if she wanted mommy to cuddle with her, "No, I just want Daddy!" I told her that Daddy was sleeping and mommy could cuddle her. "No, I just want Daddy!" I said (more calmly then I felt) that Daddy can't tonight and walked out.

I went to feed the 6 month old in the next room and put her down. Through the entire feeding I heard great sobbing and more "I want my daddy." It was the longest feeding ever! 

I wanted to fix it. I wanted to go in and wake my husband up and tell him to go kiss her good night and squeeze her. That's all she wanted. It would have been quick, easy and done. BUT, I would have taught my daughter if she screams long and loud enough--she can get what she wants.

But more than that, I would have missed out on teaching my daughter about handling herself when it doesn't go her way. Not getting Daddy tonight is minor, really. But if I don't help her now with the minor things, she'll grow up not knowing how to handle the major things.

After I put the littlest one down, I went back in and said, "Can mommy snuggle with you?" She said, "I want Daddy." Because she didn't say no, I climbed in her bed and put my arm around her and waited. After a few minutes she relaxed, a few more minutes passed and she grabbed my arm.  She calmed down and we just snuggled. I gave her a kiss, told her I loved her and then it was my turn to shed some tears.

She asked if I wanted to sleep with one of her stuffed animals and she lifted Bonsai towards me. What a gift! Every night she carefully goes over her inventory and if one animals is missing, a search ensues. All stuffed animals must be accounted for before she goes to sleep and here she was offering me one of her precious possessions.

As I closed her door I prayed that God would always give me the wisdom needed to raise this spunky, determined, remarkable girl. I know tonight won't be the last time she pushes me away, but really wants me to stay. May I know when to give her space and when to close the distance.

May God give you wisdom in raising your daughter. He gave her to you! He chose you to love her, teach her and mold her. It wasn't an accident. He wants her to learn from you. Tonight I did it right (I have Bonsai to prove it), but many times I don't. I lose my temper, lack self-control, respond disrespectfully--just to name a few. Sometimes you will do it right and sometimes you won't. When you do celebrate and when you don't, ask for forgiveness (no matter your daughter's age). And know that you aren't going to do it right every time (NO ONE DOES!) and find comfort in this closing thought...Jesus' mother didn't know where he was for three days! (Luke 2:41-46).