A cry of working moms everywhere is I wish I had a little more time with my children! But the reality is by the time you get off work, pick them up from daycare, cook dinner, get the family settled down to eat dinner, clean up dinner its 6:30/7:00 and almost bedtime.
Mom's I hear you. Nothing is more discouraging then being close to your kids, but not being engaged with them, especially after being at work all day, away from them.
One thing that has helped me considerably is meal planning. When I first heard the concept of meal planning, I thought anyone who
does that must be crazy. I barely have time to grocery shop for a few
meals, much less plan for an entire week. I don't have that much time!
But I've discovered the exact opposite has happened. Meal planning has
given me more time. I feel less rushed, and I no longer have to solve
the great big question, "What's for Dinner?!?" I already know the
answer! And knowing this answer has personally reduced my stress. And I've found when I'm less stressed it makes it easier to take the time to be with my kids.
In the simplest form, Meal Planning is
scheduling what you will eat throughout the week, so you don't have to
come home and figure it out on the fly. What meat do I have in the
freezer that I can easily defrost? Do I have a box of rice? What veggies
go with that? Meal planning answers all of those questions ahead of
time, so dinner preparation becomes less stressful.
Here is my latest Meal Planning Worksheet and a link to this worksheet,
Meal Planning Worksheet
If
this particular worksheet doesn't work for you, you can google Meal
Planning or search for it on pinterest and find other ideas. I want you
to start meal planning so your life becomes simpler, less chaotic, I
could careless what form you use! I've learned there are so few things
that I can control in my life or with my children, but this area of
dinner time, I can control--so I should, it ultimately makes my life
easier!
This doesn't mean I don't deviate from the
plan, sometimes I switch nights, if I don't feel like having what I
originally planned. Since, I already have all the ingredients, the
switch doesn't cause chaos to my dinner time prep.
Ways to make more from less.
- Find meals that use the same protein, so you don't have to prep two
nights in a row. For example, brown your ground beef and use it one
night for spaghetti and the next night for tacos (heat it up and just
add seasoning). I frequently buy a rotisserie chicken from Costco and we
have it one night for dinner and then the next night I make chicken
fajitas, and after using it for two meals, I cut up the leftover chicken
and make chicken noodle soup.
- Make extras to use later. On the weekends when I make pancakes, I
make a double batch so the leftovers can be frozen and used throughout
the week. When I make chili, I make a double batch and freeze half of
it so we can thaw it and reheat on a week night when we have other
things going on.
- Split 9" x 13" recipes to two 8" x 8". It's not exactly the same,
but close enough. (This works great for smaller families) I do this with
chicken enchiladas and lasagna. I make two 8" x 8" pans and freeze one
and cook the other. This makes for another way to have a "quick" meal
when my evenings are busy. (I went to the thrift store and purchased
some 8" x 8" pans. Why would I want to pay full retail for a glass
pan?!?)
Try it! Start somewhere, plan three meals a week. Before you
know it, you'll want to plan every night because it makes the question,
"What's for Dinner?" so easy to answer! And when you know that answer before you get home from work, things just get easier.
One thing that I've started doing with my 4-year old is letting her pick an activity to do at the kitchen table when I'm preparing dinner. This keeps her from watching TV and keeps her close to me. Having her close makes it easier for me to interact with her. I comment on what she's doing and ask her questions about her day. This also allows me to join in while I'm waiting for the water to boil or for the oven to preheat.
Here are a few things we do for activity time:
Play-Doh
Water Colors
Markers
Stickers
Toothpicks and Marshmellow Building
Pipecleaners
Legos on the kitchen floor
Pretty much anything that can keep her in the room with me, even if its a little messy--the return is worth it!
And my 8-month old, plays on a blanket with a few toys on the kitchen floor. I talk to her as I cook or pause and make a silly face at her to get her to laugh, just something every now and then so she knows I see her.
And remember, you aren't alone! There are moms all over feeling exactly like you do. Struggling to get a decent meal on the table, wanting to spend more time with their kids and somewhere in the midst of it all laundry, dishes, and just 5 minutes on a couch!
Try the meal planning, I really think it will help you immensely create more time for you to spend with your kids.