"I just want Daddy!"

There was nothing specific that caused my daughter to scream these words over and over again tonight. She just did. My husband was sick and turned in early, so I was flying solo tonight. Feeding, changing, and bedtime for our 6-month old and 4-year old.

When it was time for my oldest to go to bed she stated, "I want Daddy." I reminded her that daddy went to bed early because he was sick and needed to rest so he could get better. (Reasoning normally works with her). Not tonight! The statement, became a demand, which eventually turned into hysteria.

I asked her if she wanted mommy to cuddle with her, "No, I just want Daddy!" I told her that Daddy was sleeping and mommy could cuddle her. "No, I just want Daddy!" I said (more calmly then I felt) that Daddy can't tonight and walked out.

I went to feed the 6 month old in the next room and put her down. Through the entire feeding I heard great sobbing and more "I want my daddy." It was the longest feeding ever! 

I wanted to fix it. I wanted to go in and wake my husband up and tell him to go kiss her good night and squeeze her. That's all she wanted. It would have been quick, easy and done. BUT, I would have taught my daughter if she screams long and loud enough--she can get what she wants.

But more than that, I would have missed out on teaching my daughter about handling herself when it doesn't go her way. Not getting Daddy tonight is minor, really. But if I don't help her now with the minor things, she'll grow up not knowing how to handle the major things.

After I put the littlest one down, I went back in and said, "Can mommy snuggle with you?" She said, "I want Daddy." Because she didn't say no, I climbed in her bed and put my arm around her and waited. After a few minutes she relaxed, a few more minutes passed and she grabbed my arm.  She calmed down and we just snuggled. I gave her a kiss, told her I loved her and then it was my turn to shed some tears.

She asked if I wanted to sleep with one of her stuffed animals and she lifted Bonsai towards me. What a gift! Every night she carefully goes over her inventory and if one animals is missing, a search ensues. All stuffed animals must be accounted for before she goes to sleep and here she was offering me one of her precious possessions.

As I closed her door I prayed that God would always give me the wisdom needed to raise this spunky, determined, remarkable girl. I know tonight won't be the last time she pushes me away, but really wants me to stay. May I know when to give her space and when to close the distance.

May God give you wisdom in raising your daughter. He gave her to you! He chose you to love her, teach her and mold her. It wasn't an accident. He wants her to learn from you. Tonight I did it right (I have Bonsai to prove it), but many times I don't. I lose my temper, lack self-control, respond disrespectfully--just to name a few. Sometimes you will do it right and sometimes you won't. When you do celebrate and when you don't, ask for forgiveness (no matter your daughter's age). And know that you aren't going to do it right every time (NO ONE DOES!) and find comfort in this closing thought...Jesus' mother didn't know where he was for three days! (Luke 2:41-46).

SOLD!

Have you ever bought something and regretted your purchase? It was overpriced, or you ended up not liking the color of the item or the style went out a few months after you owned it. I HAVE--You should see my worn only twice boat shoes that were so popular a few summers ago!

Well, I have recently bought something that I consider expensive, but I don’t regret it one bit and I want to tell you about it. I’m not trying to sell you anything—really.

I have avoided blogging about this, but if these products can help you and your family, then why shouldn’t I tell you about it. I’ve struggled for weeks about sharing this, because I don’t want to be viewed as a “pusher” of products, so let me tell you what I know:

My 6 month daughter has struggled off and on with constipation. I tried massaging her stomach, giving her more water, warm baths, thermometer up the bottom, and nothing worked—NOTHING! She would cry and struggle and grunt, but no poop would come. I eventually turned to pedi-lax. I didn’t want to use it, I’ve used a laxative in the past and it was horrible, how could I do that to my tiny one?!? But I was desperate, so I did it. As the pedi-lax worked she cried, she was obviously in pain, I felt horrible, but it needed to be done. Well, a few weeks later she was struggling again, I contacted a dear friend who is an advocate for essential oils. She heard that fennel oil has helped with this issue. So I tried it, I had nothing to lose. I mixed a little coconut oil with a drop of fennel oil and rubbed it on her tummy. In one hour she had a bowel movement. No crying, no grunting, no pain. IT WAS INCREDIBLE! No more pedi-lax for my baby girl! Essential Oils here I come.

My only other experience with an essential oil (until recently) was when I was in Vietnam. I was sick, really sick. The van I was in had to pull over on the side of the road for me to violently vomit. It was awful! I got back in the van and this Vietnamese woman starts rubbing my temples with an oil. I couldn’t tell you what it was, but it took away ALL nausea. I was still weak, but no longer begging them to pull over.

Because of these two experiences, I decide to learn more. I started to research. I read lots of blogs, surfed the net, found medical studies on oils, and asked questions.

Through my searching I found other friends who have greatly benefited from essential oils. One friend was on anxiety medicine and slowly took herself off of it and now only uses an oil, Peace & Calming. It does what she needs it to do.

Another friends rubs a mixture of coconut oil and Thieves on the bottoms her children's feel and they have NEVER had a cold, even though they attend a large day care center.

A therapist at our school uses essential oils when she meets with students. She says she has seen students open up and share that previously remained closed off! WOW!

I am not saying, get of your medications and inhale or rub some oil on yourself that’s all you need. BUT people all over the world have used oils to heal and promote health. We in America have bought into something chemically engineered is the best way to go.

I’m not so sure.

Anyway, the point of this blog is to invite you to explore essentials oils. If you or someone in your family has ongoing headaches, muscle tightness, reoccurring earaches, anxiety, depression, trouble sleeping or any other aliments I encourage you to explore essential oils. Do some research, ask questions, read the studies.

I am part of a facebook community page that explores Young Living Essential Oils. I invite you to participate, message me and I’ll add you as a member to the page. NO ONE will pressure you to buy essential oils. It’s a place to ask questions and gain knowledge.

These oils have truly made my life better, my family is healthier, I personally feel better. I have more stories to tell, but don’t want to bore you. Feel free to ask me questions or at the very least let me add you to the discussions on essential oils—it might very well change your life!  REALLY!